Our Wedding : The Reality of Planning [Part 2]

So following on from my wedding goals post, I’ve decided to talk to you about my wedding planning I’ve been doing. After going to a few weddings in the past few years, all I wanted to be was a wedding planner. I’m in love with the idea of love, I love to see people in love and I think weddings are a beautiful symbol, not to mention have me in tears without fail. So when Ben proposed, I was more than ecstatic. I am so excited to marry the one man (and I say man because most of my ex’s have been ‘boys’) I’ve ever felt crazily in love with, I feel like a smitten young girl in his arms.

The reality of planning the wedding I’d always dreamed of is, to be quite frank, a pain in the arse. I have enjoyed some bits which I’ll get into, but in other areas I’ve wanted to pull my hair out. Don’t get my wrong, I’m still excited as hell but some parts of this planning process I could’ve done without.

I won’t get into too much detail with this one as Part 3 is going to be details of my actual wedding, the more exciting bits, so you guys can have an insight to what sort of wedding we’re going for!

First things first, being the organising nob I am I made a wedding spreadsheet.

Screenshot 2014-12-07 16.04.45Colour coded and everything! So firstly I made the above tab with basically every aspect we need to think about so we don’t forget anything…I originally forgot to budget in favours – I mean I didn’t even know what these bloody things were! Luckily Ben’s cousin is also getting married to one of the most awesome girls I’ve ever met who I’ve mentioned before in posts about sticking together with his fam…so yeh she’s been helping me with ideas too!

Another important tab I definitely think is our budgets tab! For example I didn’t even realise how expensive flowers were for a wedding, I budgeted £500 for these….you think we can find any in that region? Nu uh. I mean not everything we’ve gone over budget on, infact we’ve saved a lot of money in some areas but budgeting is a MUST before organising a wedding.

I would show you that page but I think it’s a bit controversial as some people will be like ‘HOW MUCH’ or the opposite and think we’re scrimpy tight wads!

DSC01382 DSC01380 DSC01393So after much advice, browsing on the internet and gifts like the wedding planning and notes book that I was given, the rest of the planning could commence. I think having everything organised, printed, saved, whatever your preference is a must.

The order we planned in went something like this:
– The amount of guests
– The venue
– The registrar
– The date
– My dress
– My hair and makeup (priorities girls!)
– DJ
– Photographer
– Bits for favours
– First attempt at Bridesmaid dresses
– Save The Dates
– Cake
– Flowers
– Chair covers (another thing I didn’t even think about)

Currently…
– still looking for bridesmaid dresses
– having our invites designed

What’s left to do…
– Pick our rings
– Plan a honeymoon
– Choose our wedding food
– Send out invites
– Create our favours
– Find my wedding shoes
– Get the men’s suits
– Think about thank you gifts
– Buy the page boys and flower girls outfits
– Sort out the table plan and theme (already got an idea for this one 😉 )
– Buy a wedding book/something to write in

So we’ve still got lots to do but we’ve got the worst bits out of the way. My most favourite was obviously picking the venue and finding our cake supplier – who doesn’t love cake tasting.

My most stressful parts were definitely finding my dress and (still trying) to find bridesmaid dresses. A little piece of advice to anyone getting married; do not say to your bridesmaids they can pick what they want/ decide if they don’t like your choices. With the amount of bridesmaids I’ve got, it is just not happening! I’ve already bought 2 sets of dresses and had to send them all back, so yeh, pick the dresses and they’ll have to like it or lump it!

I’ve also had a problem with one of my bridesmaids but that’s for another time or maybe not even on here! But yes, be careful all your brides-to-be.

So my part 3 is basically going to be details of our actual wedding so you can have a little insight in, but to go in with my planning, here are some of my other photos. [WARNING: Spoiler alert]

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Our Wedding [Part One] : My Pre-Wed Goals

I thought I’d so a few posts in the run up to my wedding and because you can’t really talk about every aspect of your wedding in one long post – how snoresville – I have narrowed it down into sections…here’s part 1 for you all 🙂

When you’re younger and you dream about getting married, you picture yourself in the nicest dress looking absolutely stunning, not too young so it looks creepy and weird but not too old so you’re still youthful looking. Perhaps sporting a nice tan and a trim body from all that exercising we all have so much time to do.

The reality is somewhat different. I’ve not got the time to exercise, fake tanning isn’t cool in my opinion and neither are sunbeds (although I have to confess I had my time on them) and living in England isn’t the best for a ‘natural glow’. The perfect dress is also insanely hard to find, it took me forever and I was picking between 2 completely different dresses! However, I can confirm that I now have ‘the one’.

So in the run up to my wedding I’ve decided to set myself five goals to look my best and as pretty as can be, not only for photos but for myself as I’ve let myself slip since moving. Plus it’s good to have goals so you can reward yourself with treats like underwear and makeup!

Goal 1
Get fit and toned
I believe while getting fit you become more toned all round. My sport is running and I definitely found that except for the excessive leg muscles I was producing, I was getting into good shape pretty much everywhere else. Of course I needed the occasional cross training exercise to keep other muscles in shape but I definitely think running is a great all-round exercise.

I know from my own experience that increasing mileage quickly is the fastest way to get injured, so I’ve come up with a plan to reach a certain mile amount every other week. I won’t bore you and tell you what miles and when but considering I have a half marathon in February and one in March I need to get my butt moving. My problem with these events is that after the big day I get so lazy because I know I’ve achieved what I wanted and then have no reason to go exercise. The wedding is now my goal!

Goal 2
Get sparkly gnashers
This one, unless you have spare cash, is quite difficult. Once your teeth are a rank colour, unless you have them whitened, there’s nothing you can do about it. However when we were in Barbados we met and amazing couple who had gorgeous teeth and they let me into their secrets of teeth whitening strips. I bought some from ebay – 3D Crest Whitening Strips – I’m not gonna lie, I’ve not seen any difference yet and I’m pretty sure they’re not working so I might ask said couple which supplier they use because their teeth looked brand new!

The reason I want white teeth is mainly for the photographs, how vain I hear you say. Yup I am. I don’t normally care about my teeth but as the front two are half false, I often get crap caught in them and they can look pretty grim so I would say I’m doing this for both the wedding and general as I’ll carry on using them once a year for a top up I think!

Goal 3
Get that tan
I’m going to have to have sunbeds I think, Ben has said I can have them up until the wedding but after I have to promise to stop. I know this sounds controlling but I made this agreement with him because he’d never stop me using them, he just shows his displeasure when I use them. Rightly so when one of his best friends died from cancer. So these ‘cancer cocoons’ as he describes them will be my friend for the next 6 months, well hopefully only 4 and I can keep topped up with the British sun…PAH YEH RIGHT! I know these are so bad for you and I know the risks I’m taking but I have promised to stop after 20th June!

Goal 4
Improve my posture
I know this sounds ridiculous but I’ve had awful granny posture since I was about 12. I gave up ballet and all other forms of dance at the age of 11 when I thought it was uncool, what a mistake that was! Now I have a hunch which is awful. I normally ask people who I’m out with to pull my shoulders back and keep reminding me to do so, I even had a back rest bought for me at work to force me to sit in a better position but I tend to sit forward and not use it properly – sorry guys what a waste of money! But anyway, I need to try my hardest on this one cause no-one wants to marry a hunch-back bride!

Goal 5
Sort out of my immune system
This one isn’t just for the wedding, this is a must! I get ill so so often, I’ve been for numerous blood tests and they’ve all come back clear. I changed my diet to add in all the great stuff that everyone recommends, that still didn’t work! Personally I don’t fancy coughing my lungs up while saying my vowels and wiping my nose with the free hand while Ben’s putting on our wedding bands. No way hose-ay. So I’m thinking in the run up to my wedding I need to be eating all of the right foods, lots of vitamins, minerals and protein. I’m going to pack up with fruit and veg and eat very clean. If I still manage to get a cold…I will officially give up with life.

So are they any other goals anyone can suggest pre-wedding? I want to look hot so when Ben turns round to watch me walk down the aisle, that fucker sheds more than one tear!