Bucket List Adventures Rises From The Deadru

Woah…a post!!?? Say whaaaat?

This blog hasn’t been touched in months because…I GOT MARRIED! On Saturday 20th June this year I married my best friends and now, gorgeous husband. It was the greatest day of my life and I hope that my health allows me to keep my memories of this day until I pass. It was a beautiful day, with lots of tears, smiles and fizzy beverages (of course 😉 ).

Here is my new husband and I on the big day…

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I had the most magical of days, I honestly felt like a princess! Every time I think about the day I get butterflies. I literally wouldn’t change a thing (except some of the bridesmaids….that is for another story). I can honestly say I love this boy with all of my heart and I hope to be drinking Merlot with him in our back garden at 75, bitching about the people this world is ruined by and adoring the beautiful nature that the world has given us.

Anyway, soppiness over. Lets get to my other updates.
THE BUCKET LIST UPDATE

1) I saw Death Cab for Cutie two weeks before the wedding – 
honestly, it felt amazing to be there, to be among people who enjoy the same music and same ambience as you do when listening to them. There is something in the music that makes the listeners just captivated and calm. I guess I’ve been to too many Blink 182 gigs with moshing teenagers and this was just a lovely eye opener that people can enjoy music the adult way.

2) I stayed in an extravagant hotel – for our ‘mini moon’, Ben and I jetted off to Venice. Those of you who don’t know about Venice, it’s a tiny, what I would call Island, off of Italy. Of course it is still bursting with all of Italy’s iconic plus points; great food, gorgeous specimens, relaxed way of life and beautiful, beautiful drink but is also home to some insane architecture. I had huge high hopes for Venice and I wasn’t let down. I guess we could’ve gone for a shorter trip, the ‘island’ was a lot smaller than I’d hoped but as we were there to finally chill out, it was perfect for long evening strolls, extended dinners with a little too much prosecco and way too much pizza. I picked a hotel that had a hot-tub on the roof and on arrival they gave us cake and the fizzy good stuff. Don’t get me wrong, I loved it but Ben and I are happy to slum it in hostels and cheap hotels for city breaks, but this was on another level. I’m glad we blew our budget for this trip.

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3) Whilst in Venice, we took a Gondala ride – much to mine and my tight arse husband’s back pocket, we took an 80 Euro Gondala ride. We are both pretty good with our money in general but I think were both reluctant to get on one. It was a good one to cross off the list, but being taken down the stinky back alleys of Venice wasn’t a great way to spend 80 euros in 30 minutes! I guess I’m glad I’ve done it, but a boat tour we took for much less money, which lasted around 2-3 hours, around all of Venice was much better value for money and also allowed you to see the glorious, imposing buildings that ancient Venice had to offer. Honestly, I wouldn’t do it again but I guess it was on my bucket list and ‘when in Rome’ n all that!

So it’s not a huge life update, I’ve done other stuff in between. Like eat 1000x more calories than I should, went on my pal’s crazy hen do to Ibiza, done a load more work on the house, reinvented my attitude towards my degree, which was slowly diminishing in the last few months of 2014. I feel like I’m back, with the time and the positive attitude that I need for this blog. I have a lot of ideas but I’m not sure quite just yet what to do with them. Youtube, WordPress or just a little notebook in my handbag, but somewhere I’ll be able to find a release for my thoughts.

I hope you’re all doing well and if you want a full post on my wedding, let me know in the comments! I didn’t want to bombard you with photos as to me they’re really special but to others they’re just a random lass on the internet’s wedding pictures.

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My Crazy January

Spoiler alert: it hasn’t been that crazy but you wouldn’t actually read on if I’d have said my mental break down month right?

So I’ve had a strange January if anything, it’s been full of spunking money on things that I definitely don’t need, deferring my French uni module and getting back into running. Most of my friends knew that towards the end of last year I was running on overdrive, I had no time for anything, my hours were all planned from 6am- 10pm and I plain wasn’t enjoying life. Whenever I would drink I would get so drunk and either cry or to the point where I wouldn’t remember what had happened during the night – yeh, not so cool.

The reason for this was I had taken too much on; two uni modules, a now 3 hour commute to and from work everyday, 9 hours at work, the stress of wedding and hen do planning, getting back into running/trying to get in shape and all while still trying to have a social life. It just didn’t give me any free time to a) myself and b) with Ben. I think the saying is burning the candle at both ends? But I’m notorious for getting these sayings wrong!

So I decided I couldn’t do and have everything and something would have to give. After a chat down the pub when Ben’s rents came down to see us, I was basically told that I would never get anywhere near professional levels in my running career (which I knew anyway!) and therefore it should be uni I should focus on. After growing up with parents who were so chilled with what we did after we had done our qualifications, funnily enough I didn’t like being told that. So I followed my heart and chose to stick at running, my favourite outlet for stress, a sport in which, no I won’t excel at starting at the age of 21, but I love! On the rare occasion I did open my French books, I was always grumpy, stressed because my ‘tutor’ was the least helpful one I’d had so far and we got off on the wrong foot straight away and upset that I wasn’t excelling as fast as I have with German. So I deferred the year.

Many people would see that as admitting defeat but I’m someone who will often not see things through and it won’t bother me at all. I can return to it, of course, but for the time being there is no point attempting to put half of my heart into something when I could give it my all when I am at a better place in life. Over Christmas I decided to get a lot of wedding planning done so I’m no longer stressed about that and I’m actively making sure I go to as many social events as I can make so not to become a boring loner who lives in the countryside and see’s no-one but her fiancé!

So my weeks are now organised by long runs, my track training (I have finely returned to athletics), gym sessions, nights out and lots of stretching and healthy eating. My mind finely feels good again. I’ve had time to start reading again, in German of course 🙂 and even had time to slip in some bakes. Two of my closest friends are going through individual crises at the moment and I need to be there for them, especially as I experienced something similar in both of their situations.

In other, less morbid news….

– I could be crossing one of my Bucket List items off on the 8th June 😉 very exciting.

– I have entered the ballot for the New York Marathon – what I was thinking when I did this I don’t know, I wasn’t even pissed!

– I have signed up to the actual Will of Iron…which I did do whilst pissed and have just this second remembered – I think I need to quit wine.

– I think I have finally found my bridesmaid dresses!

– I may be booking another tattoo (my in-laws will love that – tehehe).

– I’ve got a skiing holiday on 7th Feb to get real excited about.

– I invested in some new running shoes……..2 pairs, oppsie. I will add photos of all of my new purchases in my next post as I want to do a haul/fitness update.

– I’m back to running 9-10 miles, adding on a mile each week.

– I’ve worked out that my new SITC box set I got for Christmas can be listened to in German! I have been glued to the telly today (I was off work due to some weird illness I have).

And finally, so this isn’t all just boring words, here are some of my photos of what I’ve been up to lately.

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Firstly, I have been loving the sunsets from our bedroom window recently, especially as they’re becoming later and later.

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Yeeees, we have dodgy windows!

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To help me relieve my stress, I’ve been having loads of long baths and getting stuck into this. It’s definitely a young adults book but that’s good for my German.

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Hahaha, had to add this, this is what I just realised I signed up to last night – why oh why do I drink!

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Loving this present I got for Christmas, it really motivates me to get out as you can see your splits, how you’re improving over time and of course, it’s green!

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I’ve been having trouble with my eating at the moment due to my stress, more so with just my body confidence so I found this picture of me when I was at my skinniest and using it as my ‘thinspiration’. I know how wrong this is but there is noway I would go back to my old ways, this is just to prove to myself that I can get to a size I’d like to be when I put my mind to it.

I’ve got a couple of post ideas lined up – now that I actually have time to myself my content will hopefully get a little more interesting. As I’ve said before, I don’t really have a direction with this blog but I lot of the time it will be my rants, thoughts, my fitness and my adventures 🙂 So I hope you keep enjoying a nose into my life and thoughts.

Hope you are all well and 2015 is being kind to you. Much love XX

Own 2015

Happy New Year to you all!

How did you all spend your New Year’s? Were you hanging out of your arse’s and eating bad food or were you straight down the gym and having a cleansing smoothie?

I have to say I was pretty much between the two! I ended up going to a house party which was pretty fun but I tried to make sure I didn’t get too drunk so I could attempt a 7 mile run – the effort was there guys, I got dressed around half 11 after slobbing in bed all morning, headed out but could only manage just under 2 miles, what a massive fail! I was sick (which I’m pretty sure may have been the alcohol) and I was running pretty quick to get home to the toilet – not good. But I did try and eat a little better yesterday and drunk lots of water.

My mission for today is to get that 7 miler done. I’ve signed up to two half’s this year, one of which I now can’t do as my fiancé booked us tickets to the Athletics in Birmingham that weekend and I didn’t have the heart to tell him I had Brighton Half Marathon on the Sunday – for those of you who don’t know, getting to Brighton from Birmingham for a half 8 start would mean leaving at stupid o’clock and my body wouldn’t have been fully prepped. Which is a massive shame as I’ve not run in the Brighton half, I’ll have to sign up for next year instead 🙂

As it is a New Year and every New Year I like to set myself goals rather than resolutions as most people are more likely to stick to a ‘goal’, I’d thought I’d share what I’m going to try and achieve this year.

[1] Complete 5-8 more entries on my Bucket List – this one for me is important. Why have a Bucket List and not bother actually living the experiences you’ve always wanted?

[2] Get back to Half Marathon fitness – I don’t really have a choice on this one, not that I wouldn’t want to do it but as I’ve signed up for two (now one) half marathon, I need to make sure I’m going to be fit enough to complete these without injury. I wanna own sport this year, not only for my body’s sake but for myself. That reminds me: I’ve got to contact my old coach and a potential new one for the Athletics season too!

[3] Start treating my teeth with respect – the more I look at other people’s teeth, especially the older generation, the more I’m frightened that I’ve let this lack of respect go on for too long! The amount of damage I must’ve already caused with the amount of sugar I consume is beyond repair. But what I can do is prevent anymore damage. Ben got an electric toothbrush from my parents for Christmas so I’ve bought a head for it so I can use it too, it comes with this cute little timer which lets you know when you’ve spent long enough on one section of your mouth – it’s surprising how long you actually should spend brushing your teeth! I’ve also got some teeth whitening strips that I wanna give a bash, hopefully sort out the colour a little too.

[4] Turn my diet into a useful one – as you know from all of my ranting and raving, I am always ill. This year I want to make sure I’m getting the most out of my food, with lots of nutrients and vitamins to help me and also getting the right fuel for my running an exercising. This one will be pretty hard as we still have the Christmas shite still in the cupboard but I’m pretty sure Ben may be able to take some into his work and it’ll be eaten up straight away!

[5] Spend more time with my future husband – this is a given. Since moving we’ve barely spent any time in our new home which is a massive shame. I love it here and we moved here for the beautiful countryside, the benefits of being able to cycle without less traffic, talk long walks in the sun and have generally less people around us (unsocial crones!) but we haven’t had the chance to make the most of it! He’s been staying at his parents a lot what with still working in Essex, but now his transfer is scheduled for next week, I’m so excited to have some us time back!

[6] Say no – I am a sucker for saying ‘yes’ to every plan that gets thrown my way. I don’t like letting people down and I have a real time management problem. I need to learn to say to people ‘no’ as I still have other work and Uni work commitments which are more important. In the past I have been guilty for knowing I have an essay due in the next week but still seeing different friends on both weekend days then moaning I haven’t seen Ben and consequently giving myself 48 hours to get the work done! I guess this one is also about learning to manage my time better!

[7] Read 30 books across 2015 – as you can see in one of my latest posts about my most re-read books, I have so many unread books that I want to read but never allow myself the time to do so. This year I’m setting myself the goal of getting through 30 books to make sure that I can actually read the books in my beautiful mini library. I love buying the books themselves and get excited to read them, but the day-to-day running of my life doesn’t normally allow to get much personal reading done. So this is my target for this year.

I’d love to know about your resolutions and goals! I did actually have 10 but I thought 10 would be greedy and quite hard to reach.

Although everyone has been saying ‘this is gonna be my year’, I sort of agree.

This year I will:
– be getting married
– going on a surprise hen do
– taking Ben to the place I grew up skiing
– honeymooning (twice) 😛
– wine tasting
– weekend awaying
– camping
– exploring our new area
and much much more! So I have lots to look forward to.

Here’s to 2015 guys, make sure you own it too!

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Our Wedding : The Reality of Planning [Part 2]

So following on from my wedding goals post, I’ve decided to talk to you about my wedding planning I’ve been doing. After going to a few weddings in the past few years, all I wanted to be was a wedding planner. I’m in love with the idea of love, I love to see people in love and I think weddings are a beautiful symbol, not to mention have me in tears without fail. So when Ben proposed, I was more than ecstatic. I am so excited to marry the one man (and I say man because most of my ex’s have been ‘boys’) I’ve ever felt crazily in love with, I feel like a smitten young girl in his arms.

The reality of planning the wedding I’d always dreamed of is, to be quite frank, a pain in the arse. I have enjoyed some bits which I’ll get into, but in other areas I’ve wanted to pull my hair out. Don’t get my wrong, I’m still excited as hell but some parts of this planning process I could’ve done without.

I won’t get into too much detail with this one as Part 3 is going to be details of my actual wedding, the more exciting bits, so you guys can have an insight to what sort of wedding we’re going for!

First things first, being the organising nob I am I made a wedding spreadsheet.

Screenshot 2014-12-07 16.04.45Colour coded and everything! So firstly I made the above tab with basically every aspect we need to think about so we don’t forget anything…I originally forgot to budget in favours – I mean I didn’t even know what these bloody things were! Luckily Ben’s cousin is also getting married to one of the most awesome girls I’ve ever met who I’ve mentioned before in posts about sticking together with his fam…so yeh she’s been helping me with ideas too!

Another important tab I definitely think is our budgets tab! For example I didn’t even realise how expensive flowers were for a wedding, I budgeted £500 for these….you think we can find any in that region? Nu uh. I mean not everything we’ve gone over budget on, infact we’ve saved a lot of money in some areas but budgeting is a MUST before organising a wedding.

I would show you that page but I think it’s a bit controversial as some people will be like ‘HOW MUCH’ or the opposite and think we’re scrimpy tight wads!

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The order we planned in went something like this:
– The amount of guests
– The venue
– The registrar
– The date
– My dress
– My hair and makeup (priorities girls!)
– DJ
– Photographer
– Bits for favours
– First attempt at Bridesmaid dresses
– Save The Dates
– Cake
– Flowers
– Chair covers (another thing I didn’t even think about)

Currently…
– still looking for bridesmaid dresses
– having our invites designed

What’s left to do…
– Pick our rings
– Plan a honeymoon
– Choose our wedding food
– Send out invites
– Create our favours
– Find my wedding shoes
– Get the men’s suits
– Think about thank you gifts
– Buy the page boys and flower girls outfits
– Sort out the table plan and theme (already got an idea for this one 😉 )
– Buy a wedding book/something to write in

So we’ve still got lots to do but we’ve got the worst bits out of the way. My most favourite was obviously picking the venue and finding our cake supplier – who doesn’t love cake tasting.

My most stressful parts were definitely finding my dress and (still trying) to find bridesmaid dresses. A little piece of advice to anyone getting married; do not say to your bridesmaids they can pick what they want/ decide if they don’t like your choices. With the amount of bridesmaids I’ve got, it is just not happening! I’ve already bought 2 sets of dresses and had to send them all back, so yeh, pick the dresses and they’ll have to like it or lump it!

I’ve also had a problem with one of my bridesmaids but that’s for another time or maybe not even on here! But yes, be careful all your brides-to-be.

So my part 3 is basically going to be details of our actual wedding so you can have a little insight in, but to go in with my planning, here are some of my other photos. [WARNING: Spoiler alert]

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Our Wedding [Part One] : My Pre-Wed Goals

I thought I’d so a few posts in the run up to my wedding and because you can’t really talk about every aspect of your wedding in one long post – how snoresville – I have narrowed it down into sections…here’s part 1 for you all 🙂

When you’re younger and you dream about getting married, you picture yourself in the nicest dress looking absolutely stunning, not too young so it looks creepy and weird but not too old so you’re still youthful looking. Perhaps sporting a nice tan and a trim body from all that exercising we all have so much time to do.

The reality is somewhat different. I’ve not got the time to exercise, fake tanning isn’t cool in my opinion and neither are sunbeds (although I have to confess I had my time on them) and living in England isn’t the best for a ‘natural glow’. The perfect dress is also insanely hard to find, it took me forever and I was picking between 2 completely different dresses! However, I can confirm that I now have ‘the one’.

So in the run up to my wedding I’ve decided to set myself five goals to look my best and as pretty as can be, not only for photos but for myself as I’ve let myself slip since moving. Plus it’s good to have goals so you can reward yourself with treats like underwear and makeup!

Goal 1
Get fit and toned
I believe while getting fit you become more toned all round. My sport is running and I definitely found that except for the excessive leg muscles I was producing, I was getting into good shape pretty much everywhere else. Of course I needed the occasional cross training exercise to keep other muscles in shape but I definitely think running is a great all-round exercise.

I know from my own experience that increasing mileage quickly is the fastest way to get injured, so I’ve come up with a plan to reach a certain mile amount every other week. I won’t bore you and tell you what miles and when but considering I have a half marathon in February and one in March I need to get my butt moving. My problem with these events is that after the big day I get so lazy because I know I’ve achieved what I wanted and then have no reason to go exercise. The wedding is now my goal!

Goal 2
Get sparkly gnashers
This one, unless you have spare cash, is quite difficult. Once your teeth are a rank colour, unless you have them whitened, there’s nothing you can do about it. However when we were in Barbados we met and amazing couple who had gorgeous teeth and they let me into their secrets of teeth whitening strips. I bought some from ebay – 3D Crest Whitening Strips – I’m not gonna lie, I’ve not seen any difference yet and I’m pretty sure they’re not working so I might ask said couple which supplier they use because their teeth looked brand new!

The reason I want white teeth is mainly for the photographs, how vain I hear you say. Yup I am. I don’t normally care about my teeth but as the front two are half false, I often get crap caught in them and they can look pretty grim so I would say I’m doing this for both the wedding and general as I’ll carry on using them once a year for a top up I think!

Goal 3
Get that tan
I’m going to have to have sunbeds I think, Ben has said I can have them up until the wedding but after I have to promise to stop. I know this sounds controlling but I made this agreement with him because he’d never stop me using them, he just shows his displeasure when I use them. Rightly so when one of his best friends died from cancer. So these ‘cancer cocoons’ as he describes them will be my friend for the next 6 months, well hopefully only 4 and I can keep topped up with the British sun…PAH YEH RIGHT! I know these are so bad for you and I know the risks I’m taking but I have promised to stop after 20th June!

Goal 4
Improve my posture
I know this sounds ridiculous but I’ve had awful granny posture since I was about 12. I gave up ballet and all other forms of dance at the age of 11 when I thought it was uncool, what a mistake that was! Now I have a hunch which is awful. I normally ask people who I’m out with to pull my shoulders back and keep reminding me to do so, I even had a back rest bought for me at work to force me to sit in a better position but I tend to sit forward and not use it properly – sorry guys what a waste of money! But anyway, I need to try my hardest on this one cause no-one wants to marry a hunch-back bride!

Goal 5
Sort out of my immune system
This one isn’t just for the wedding, this is a must! I get ill so so often, I’ve been for numerous blood tests and they’ve all come back clear. I changed my diet to add in all the great stuff that everyone recommends, that still didn’t work! Personally I don’t fancy coughing my lungs up while saying my vowels and wiping my nose with the free hand while Ben’s putting on our wedding bands. No way hose-ay. So I’m thinking in the run up to my wedding I need to be eating all of the right foods, lots of vitamins, minerals and protein. I’m going to pack up with fruit and veg and eat very clean. If I still manage to get a cold…I will officially give up with life.

So are they any other goals anyone can suggest pre-wedding? I want to look hot so when Ben turns round to watch me walk down the aisle, that fucker sheds more than one tear!